How are you doing?

We are about to complete the first month of 2017. That’s right, we’re almost 1/12 through the new year already! It’s a great time to measure our initial progress. I set a few large goals for this year. Did you? How are you doing on them? Are you winning at some and have room to improve others? Well beating yourself up won’t do any good. Do y need to adjust some actual goals or do you need to alter your approach? I challenge to you ask yourself: Which goals have you achieved? Tell somebody of your accomplishments! Pat yourself on the back. Which goals are still in process? Are you making progress on them? Which goals need to be adjusted? Perhaps your goals weren’t SMART enough. (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely) Is it possible you’re not focusing on the right areas for now? (Click on Rate Your Life to see if you’re putting energy into the parts of your life that need the most attention now.) Success is not just about accomplishing all your goals, but also seeing where you need to adjust, setting new goals, or tweaking your approach.  Don’t beat yourself up for your failures. Rather focus on your accomplishments and make adjustments to continue moving forward. It’s not too late. After all, you still have 11/12 of the year...

047: Gratitude Aug21

047: Gratitude

https://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/medeor.co/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/47-Gratitude-with-Jeannette-.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 25:38 — 23.5MB)Jeannette Slater & Dr. Deb discuss a cure to many ills and stresses: gratitude! The episode is full of reminders and perspective that we often lose as we experience everyday life. Jeannette read Living in Gratitude: A Journey That Will Change Your Life by Arrien Angeles, internalized it and added her own reflections and experiences to discuss this important topic.   Check out Angeles books and try using the table above for a self-reflective exercise. Angeles Arrien. (2013). Living in Gratitude: A Journey That Will Change Your Life Angeles Arrien. (2013). Living in Gratitude: Mastering the Art of Giving Thanks Every Day, A Month-by-Month Guide Angeles Arrien. (2006). The Second Half of Life: Opening the Eight Gates of...

Risk

What are you willing to risk? While this may be a legitimate question in a poker game, it is also an essential life question. We all know that risk is both a verb and a noun. We understand that risk involves taking action that is uncertain; it could result in positive or negative outcomes. We’d like to think that every risk situation is approached with a firm calculation of potential outcomes. But we know we’re not just logical beings; we are complexly emotional. We also know that we make decisions based on limited information. Teenagers engage in reckless behavior, from driving too fast to unprotected sex. That is because the prefrontal cortex—the part of the brain responsible for risk assessment and decision making— is not fully developed until age 25. But many adults exhibit the same types of irrational and irresponsible behavior as adolescents. Smoking, eating too much (or the wrong things), ignoring relationship red flags, and making unwise financial decisions, are just some of examples. I know someone who is too afraid to drive; yet she has made risky life choices that have resulted in chronic stress and financial strain. The risk-assessment part of her being seems to be broken. We tend to underestimate potential negative consequences for things we want. We just do them. In other areas, we fail to accurately assess what could happen if we don’t take care of the things we already have. A common example is not backing up your computer. With more and more of our lives stored on and dependent on technology, why doesn’t everyone back up? Cloud backup and external hard drives are super-easy and incredibly affordable. You can get a 500GB external drive for under $50 in the U.S., and a 1-2T drive for...

The Lost Art of Self-Reflection

For most of history, people got up with the sun and went to bed with it. Their worlds were very small, about as far as they could walk or ride a horse in a day. They heard the birds chirp. They were familiar with the stars. They were comfortable with silence and had time to think. That was then. This is now. In our busy world, we are always surrounded by sounds, demands, pressures and obligations. Silence and solitude are difficult to find. Being comfortable with our own thoughts is seemingly impossible. Everybody wants a piece of us. Before television, cars, electricity, billboards and city life (not to mention email, Facebook and all the overstimulation of the digital life), it must have been easier to engage in self-reflection. At least there weren’t so many distractions. I recently wrote about our need for holidays; we need the special ones as well as the  weekly ones some people call Sabbath. Those times give us pause to reflect on our lives. As a lay life coach, I pose four questions to new clients to help them reflect on where they’d like to grow. I encourage you to answer these questions for yourself. Also click the Rate Your Life link and score yourself on six life dimensions. As you reflect, you may learn some things about yourself and embark on a journey of growth, personal development and positive change. Questions: What are 1 or 2 things I think should be on the agenda for my life right now? If I could change one thing in my life right now, what would it be? What are the obstacles that are holding me back from reaching my potential in this season of my life? When I think ahead to 3 years from now, how do I want my life to be different?  ...

Take the Test!

How are your finances, relationships, career, health and spiritual life? Are you growing and developing as a person? Do you feel you are stuck or have areas to work on? Click on the Take the Test! link above to conduct a personal assessment on 6 areas of your life.