Jelly Beans pt 2

Only read this if you’ve already read Jelly Beans pt 1.  The is pt 2 of an article by guest writer, Karissa Wenner. According to research done by Bonnie Ware, the most common regrets of dying people are: 5. I wish I had let myself be happier. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends 3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings. 2. I wish I didn’t work so hard. 1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. Wow: I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. Let’s break this down. The first part is much easier said than done: “I wish I had the courage…” Courage is something that can’t be taught, but is found within. It’s scary to break your comfort zone, but if you find a big enough reason to do so, you will also find the courage to overcome your fears. The next part is also tricky: “…to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” In order to accomplish this, you must truly know yourself and know the life you want for yourself. Too often I see students studying something they don’t care about and people working jobs they hate simply because they are following the norm and doing what society deems ‘acceptable’. I challenge you to think for yourself and figure out what truly makes you happy. It’s that warm fuzzy feeling that you should be chasing no matter how unrealistic it may seem or how your peers might react. Stop worrying about other people’s opinions! Everybody is guilty of it whether...

Jelly Beans Pt.1

The following is an article written by Karissa Wenner. As a student of mine, she presented the following in a speech. I encouraged her to turn it into an post to share with you. The idea that ‘life is short’ has become somewhat of a cliché in today’s society; however, it is an important concept to internalize. Here’s a quick 3-minute video that uses jelly beans to show how you’re spenging your life.* I’m sure I’m not alone in re-evaluating my life after seeing this video! It’s amazing to see how much time we spend on simple daily activities and how little spare time we have left to do the things we actually enjoy. It’s impossible to know how many jelly beans we have left, and like he said in the video, “What if you just had one more day? What are you going to do today?” If you’re like me, you wouldn’t spend your last day sleeping or at work, you would spend it living your dreams! Unfortunately, it’s not so easy to know what to do with your time when you don’t know how much of it you have left. We’re all scrambling to try to find the balance between enjoying the present and building for the future, so that when all is said and done, we don’t regret the way we spent our jelly beans. I’m not afraid of many things, but I am afraid of regret. My biggest fear is to be laying on my deathbed regretting the things I did, and didn’t do, with my time. A woman named Bronnie Ware did a study of Hospice patients where she asked them what their top regrets in life were.** These were the results: 5. I wish I had let myself be happier....

022: Self-Fulfilling Prophecy Feb07

022: Self-Fulfilling Prophecy...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/22-Kristy_Self-fulfilling_prophecy_.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 25:41 — 23.5MB)Assistant Communication Professor, Kristy Callihan, talks about the concept of self-fulfilling prophecy and how it affects our success in life. The process of envisioning success or failure determines what we will do—what steps we put or don’t put in place in order to do well. This isn’t some new-age notion or hocus pocus/touchy-feeling expectation, but rather a reality in what we set ourselves up for. In the episode we made reference to these articles on GetControlOfYourLife.org: Rezlootions Know Thyself Watch Kristy’s YouTube video on Self-Fulfilling Prophecy...

What Does Rich Mean To You? Feb05

What Does Rich Mean To You?...

I Will Teach You To Be Rich is an awesome book by Indian-American Ramit Sethi that I found to be a MUST READ for anyone with questions about personal finance. “No guilt. No excuses. No B.S. Just a 6-week program that works.” That subtitle says it all! I admit I am turned off by any book or program that promises to make anyone rich. They are usually crap, with the author the only one getting rich. However, I managed to get past the title and order the audio version of this book from Audible, and listened to all at once on a road trip. Written for people in their 20s, the book obviously has a much wider audience, having became a New York Times bestseller and creating lots of buzz. Ramit asks a fundamental question at the beginning that makes his financial philosophy unique. “I will teach you to be rich isn’t just about money: What does it mean to you?” Likewise, he proposes a spending plan that seems more palatable for those who don’t like to budget. He talks about conscious spending; deciding what’s important to you, then adjusting your spending patterns to include that. For example, if spending $3 for coffee everyday is important to you, then do it, but think about eliminating other areas that you care less about, like cable TV if you really don’t use it much. He also offers some good rule-of-thumb principles about allocating various percentages of your income, like saving 10% of your income from an early age. Ramit describes how to optimize your credit cards, negotiate with banks and avoid their outrageous fees, automate your bills, save for things like weddings and retirement, and a lot of basic but really important information on investing. While...

Where is God?

Where do you find The Divine? This is an age-old question, yet one that has to be answered by every person in every generation. And nobody can answer it for you. Where do YOU find God? It may not be the answer you think you’re supposed to have, or where other people do. God is everywhere and in all. That means the Divine is in you, in your house, in beautiful sunsets and in the trees. (God is in the trees; that doesn’t mean the trees are God.) If the Divine is everywhere, then God is closer than your breath. Think about that; closer than your breath. I love the traditional greeting of the Maori natives of New Zealand. Two people touch foreheads and noses; they literally take a moment to share breath. This may seem intimidating or gross to you, but I promise, it is an amazing experience. Now translate that to the Divine. Imagine sharing breath with the Divine…anyplace, any situation, all the time. Do you think God is far away, either because you feel guilty, you’re depressed or you don’t go to church? Theologian Rob Bell has points out that the very name of God is related to our breath. When we inhale, it’s like where’s saying, “Yah.” Likewise, when we exhale, we make the sound of, “Weh.” “Yaweh, yaweh.” The average adult breathes 12 to 20 times a minute. That means you are saying the name of God 12 to 20 times a minute. Yet how oblivious we are. Where do you find the Divine? Where is God to you? Have you limited God to the confines of the church building? Is the Divine only real to you when you’re praying or reading the Bible, while listening to some music...

Kindness

When I was a little girl, my family used to visit my grandparents in Iowa. Grandma was always so kind and generous; it was like she couldn’t give me enough. I must have been about 8 or 9 when, on one particular visit, she presented me with some gift. I remember being so moved that I went to my room and cried like a baby. I was so touched by her love. Something like that happened to me recently. I didn’t run to my room crying, but I was profoundly affected, and I think I’ll always remember it. I had screwed up. I got confused with times, and missed a very important appointment. In a panic, I made a phone call and someone covered for me. I deserved a tongue-lashing. I deserved to have my butt chewed out for being so irresponsible. Instead I experienced deep and genuine kindness that still has me thinking about it a week later. The person who covered for me jumped in and did it with an amazing attitude, one that I’m sure was better than anything I would have mustered in the same situation. I saw the Divine. And it changed me. I realized something profound: True character is revealed when it is inconvenienced. The next day I stopped by a department store to pick up something. Seeing the various checkout line options, I headed for the “10 items or less” line only to realize that the folks in front of me had two entire baskets full of purchases. (That’s WAY more than 10 items!) However, I was somehow filled with much grace for these dear people and all their stuff. I didn’t get upset. I didn’t give them dirty looks. I didn’t even think to myself how...

Start

It’s the new year, so you have likely been thinking about (and hearing about) resetting aspects of your life. There is a sense in January that one can start over. Newsflash: It’s still January! But starting can be the hardest part. Starting is step 1. But often we get bogged down by steps 4 and 5 and so on. What if I don’t follow through? How much will it cost? What will happen if…? Change is intimidating for many of us because it involves uncertainty. But it’s a vicious cycle; and sometimes our deepest desires get bogged down. We experience paralysis by analysis! What is the one thing that is really on your mind these days? Spending more time with people you love? Stopping something? Getting a new job? Enjoying every moment a little more? Cleaning out that closet? Starting that retirement fund? Being present wherever you are? Just being content? Today you can do step 1. Just start. You’ve done it many times. You learned to walk by taking that first step! You learned to count by starting with 1. You learned the alphabet by starting with the 1st letter. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Be courageous. Be curious. Be confident. Go ahead; take the first bite. Just start. As Rob Bell said in an interview for oprah.com, “When you say yes to step 1, you cross over from one realm to another.”*   *http://www.oprah.com/connectembraceown/Life-Stories-That-Inspire-with-Rob-Bell Royalty-free image by Colin Brough in the United Kingdom. Retrieved from...

021: Innovation Institute Jan24

021: Innovation Institute...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/21-_Innovation_Institute_with_Harold_Andresen.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 45:55 — 42.0MB)Car mechanics and engineers are some of the most creative people I know. Harold Andresen is one of those. After owning his own car repair shop for years, he followed his heart for the physically challenged and started The Innovation Institute. It might as well be called, “Machines That Matter,” because it gives disabled craftsmen the chance to fix and improve their own medical devices, but also to create and modify machines to help others—like modifying golf carts that support wheel chairs so disabled kids can go on joy rides to laugh and feel the wind in their faces. For a few brief moments, they forget their disability. But the story is more than using engineering and problem solving to better the lives of wheelchair friends. It’s a story of forgiveness, dealing with disabilities, giving to others, having fun and feeling useful. Harold’s message to you: “I have the one-liners all over my life, my desk and my phone, my shop, the garage. I think finding what works for you is really important. So if you’re favorite song really keeps you motivated to press in to something significant, then you should spend a lot of time letting that favorite song go through your head. But if it’s just your self talk and words, that’s fine too. And if it’s actually doing, you’ve just got to get out in the garage and make stuff, that’s great. And if it’s go to the park and meet people, that’s just great. We have so few molds in our culture of how to do it right; I think that’s the thing I try to avoid. I would say you’ve got to figure out where you’re niche is, where you’re energized, and...

Yes and No

This time of year, everyone is saying what you need to do more of. The message is that you need to say YES to vegetables. YES to going to the gym. YES to saving more money. YES to buying whatever they’re offering. Right. And you’re thinking how can I possibly do any more? How can I possibly spend anymore? Everybody seems to want a piece of you; it’s like squeezing blood out of a turnip! Yoy many be thinking, “I’m completely maxed out. If only there was more money and more hours in a day!” The challenge with saying YES to more stuff, is we have to said NO to other stuff. Last year’s priorities may not be this year’s priorities. But if you keep saying YES without saying NO, you will just keep piling on, adding to your stress instead of reducing it. I recently shared a quote by theist thinker, Rob Bell, that you have to say YES before you can say NO.* It means that when you know what to say YES (to something you’re passionate about), you then have permission to say NO to what you’re not! I agree. I also agree that you have to say NO before you can say YES. Check out what another thinker/author, Seth Godin, says on the subject (with CAPS added for emphasis. He brings out what many of us struggle with—RESPONSIBILITIES and EXPECTATIONS by others and ourselves. “If you believe that you must keep your promises, overdeliver and treat every commitment as though it’s an opportunity for a transformation, the only way you can do this is to turn down most opportunities. “NO I can’t meet with you, NO I can’t sell it to you at this price, NO I can’t do this job justice,...

Fat, Sick & Nearly Dead...

Joe Cross found himself overweight, feeling terrible and on multiple medications for an auto-immune disease. He was fat, sick and nearly dead! He decided he didn’t want to live that way, so he left his native Australia to come to American to begin a life-change, travel across the country, and document the process in a film. The film, Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead was the result. Discovered on Netflix, I found it to be an inspiring documentary that shows the incredible difference diet can make. Joe did what he calls a health “reboot.” He decided to only drink vegetable and fruit juice for 60 days. What he discovered was that the body has an amazing ability to heal itself when it is given the proper fuel. Joe lost a ton of weight and was able to get off his prescriptions. As he traveled across the U.S., Joe talked to hundreds of people about food, health and longevity. What emerged was nothing short of amazing. Joe rubbed shoulders with people who suffered like he did, and who were ready for change—big change. Take Phil for example. He was a 429-pound truck driver who was also sick—one cheeseburger away from a heart attack. Like Joe, Phil also did a reboot with juicing and exercise; and he got his life back. Now Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead 2 is out. See the trailer here: In the 2nd film, Joe revisited Phil, helped him back on track while he continued to spread his message. He also discovered a little boy who was almost paralyzed with arthritis. After juicing for several months, the kid had a complete health turnaround, is off medications, and is now able to run around and play like other kids. There seems to be a...

Where’s Your Treasure?...

“The place where your treasure is, is the place you will most want to be, and end up being.” This is an awesome principle from a little verse in the book of Matthew in the Bible.* And how true it is. We can talk all day about resolutions and goals. But in the end, we put our time and resources into the things we care most about. And in some sort of cyclical pattern those investments of time and resources set our priorities, define who we are, and reveal our desired destination. Which comes first? Yes. Time, resources, priorities, identity, destination; each affects the other. What you invest in reveals much about what is really important to you. And that is key—knowing what is important to you—because you can’t do everything! As Rob Bell said in his first Robcast,** “You have to say yes before you can say no.” It means you know what to say yes to. Then that gives you permission not only to say YES to what you’re passionate about, but NO to what you’re not! How cool is that? But oh how we struggle to say no! The priorities you set are both reflective of and determining of who you are. And who you are decides what you give yourself to (and not to). And your destination is both a reflection of your desires and a result of who you are and what you give yourself to. It may sound complex, but it’s actualy quite simple (and freeing)! Consider this circle as you contemplate how you will live your life this year.   * Matthew 6:21 The Message translation ** The Robcast (Rob Bell podcast), Episode 1, January 11, 2015. Check out here:...

020: Growing A Successful Life Jan13

020: Growing A Successful Life...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/20-Regina_-_Growing_A_Successful_Life.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 53:00 — 48.5MB)This is a great podcast to kick off the new year. Dr. Regina Lewis & Dr. Deb discuss strategies for growing a successful life. What is the difference between motivation and inspiration? How do you make big goals achievable? How do you push through the dips? We discuss developing a lifestyle of success, not one-hit wonders. “Whenever you make it to the top of the mountain, it just makes it easier to see the next summit.” – La Vonne Neal, Northern Illinois University Check out Dr. Lewis’s website here. Read about Dr. Lewis’s body building competitions. We mentioned, The Dip, by Seth Godin. It’s a great little book about handling walls you encounter in life. The key is knowing when to surrender and when to push...

Spending Energy

Where Will Your Energy Go in 2015? As I get older, I am more aware of the limits of my energy. So when I think about having another year to, “laugh and love and live,” as my dad used to say, I’m starting to consider the coming months differently. The first difference is that I am looking at the “channels” where my energy can flow, rather than specific goals I want to accomplish. Hmmm. Energy vs. goals. Both are important. But it seems I first need to identify what is important in my life, and where of the many potential directions, I want to go this year. Where will I put my energy? As a coach, I usually ask my coachees (clients) to identify the ‘big rocks’ (priorities) in their lives. These are the major responsibilities that you need to balance in your life; they don’t change much from year to year unless you have a significant shift like a job change. Channels are a different. I see them as more specific aspects of those big rocks that you really want to see grow and expand in the next year. For example, one of my big rocks is the vacation rental business I want to grow this year. My major channels are pursuing new clients and creating sustainable and reproducible systems for each aspect of the business. There will be many other responsibilities that will take my time and energy as well, but these are the ones I would like to really give my energy to this year. And that brings me to another realization. I find I have different kinds of energy, and when one is exhausted, another may still have some fuel in the tank. When it comes to channeling my energy,...

Gym Memberships

We’re a whole week into the new year. How are you doing with those resolutions and goals? If you’re like me (and a lot of other people), you decided you want to be healthier. And that likely includes eating better and getting more exercise. How are you going to do those things? Could joining a gym be a potential solution? Like investing, I started seriously exercising way too late in life. But it’s never too late. I figure today is better than never, and there is no time like the present to make a change. I always thought gym memberships were too expensive, until I started researching them. Years ago I had tried jogging; I hate jogging. I tried an exercise ball and elastic bands, DVDs and TV exercise routines and an in-home bike and treadmill. I even tried a circuit-training program for women, I found little motivation to go. None of these worked for me. Now that I’ve found something that works, I’ve stuck with it. That is a key! What’s the best exercise for you? The one you’ll actually do. If you live in a place with a lot of nice weather, daily walks, hiking or swimming may be great for you. Or maybe you’re self-disciplined enough to follow an online program or use your own equipment. I found that actually GOING to a gym helped me. There is nothing like seeing other people workout to convince you to do the same. Somehow being with others who care about their bodies enough to workout motivates me. Here are some options you may not have considered: FREE – Is there a gym you may have free access to, like at school, work or where you live? BARE BONES – I found there are...

Hope for 2015!

Hope. There is something hopeful about new things. New babies seem to represent the promise of a bright future. Springtime brings new life from the death and dormancy of autumn and winter. And a new year brings a fresh reminder that we can always escape the trappings, failures and disappointments of the past and get a lease on life. Just like forgiveness releases us from the past, so does a new year. Hope can be defined as a feeling of desire of excitement about a thing about to happen. It’s also an expectation for great things to happen! What are your hopes for 2015? What are the desires of your heart? Do you have a renewed sense of excitement, expectation and desire for the new year? I figure there are two main ways to view the world. One is to feel hopeless and a victim of things that are outside your control. I sometimes refer to it as the Doris Day philosophy. Que sera sera; whatever will be will be. The other is to view yourself as an architect of your destiny, a deep belief in your ability to alter the world and cause things to be. I sometimes refer to this as the Sly Stone philosophy, based on the song, You can make it if you try, made popular by the funk musician in the late 1960s. While some things are out of our control, it’s good to be reminded there is a great deal we can control! Our destiny is to a large extent in our hands. Consider the Sly Stone philosophy as you think about the new year. You can make it if you try! You can accomplish things you never knew possible. And you can be the bright light shining in your...

Countdown to 2015…2...

What is your relationship plan for 2015? Do you long to spend more time with family or friends? Are there some relationships that need mending? How would you score this aspect of your life (from 1 to 10; see the Get Control “Rate Your Life” self-assessment tool to rate yourself on your career, health and fitness, money, personal development, relationships and spirituality. I’ve come to realize that relationships need care and feeding; you have to be intentional about them. It’s easy to become withdrawn and just stay home. But is this healthy all the time? Two years ago I became intentional about nurturing relationships with a handful of friends. I formed a group that continues to meet twice a month. We drink wine and eat snacks; but mostly we share life together. It has become very precious for all involved. Think about who you would like to spend time with this year and form a plan for doing so. Make a list of folks you might want to meet for coffee or a meal. Then schedule it! You need people in your life. You need their influence, input and energy. They have much to invest in you, but you must avail yourself. You also have much to give! There is no one like you and no one who brings that you bring. Your unique personality, experiences and giftings can make a huge difference to those around you. Consider these words as you begin the new year: “If you’re not happy in life then you need to change, calibrate, readjust…flush your negative energy and fill it with positive energy; How do we do that you might ask? Well I would start by making others happy; diseases are not the only things that spread easy. We...

Countdown to 2015…3 Dec30

Countdown to 2015…3...

What are your financial goals for the new year? Get out of debt? Save more for retirement? Be more generous? SET SMART GOALS – Whatever your financial desires, make sure you turn them into SMART goals that are: Specific: Exactly what do you want your money to do for you (and others)? Measurable: Break down your financial goals into practical solutions. How much extra would you have to earn per month to pay off debt or more easily pay your bills? How much do you need to save in order to attain your spending or saving goals? Experts recommend you put real numbers on paper so you can measure your success. Attainable: You likely won’t become a millionaire in the next six months unless you’re well on your way already! Set goals that are actually attainable or doable. And don’t bother buying lottery tickets or hoping for other financial windfalls; you have a much greater chance of being hit by lightning. Financial success usually comes the old fashioned way, by work and praying for it! Realistic: Set goals that you actually have a chance of accomplishing. You can’t work 200 hours a week, but you can likely do more than you’re currently doing. How would giving away 10% instead of 5% affect your bottom line? How would working more affect your family? How long would you have to save to get that thing you want to buy? Try to differentiate between your desires and realistic goals you can actually meet. Timely: Set a realistic timeframe for accomplishing your financial goals? At X$ per month, how long would it take to________________? USE A BUDGET AND TRACK YOUR SPENDING – In addition, it’s vital to have the right systems in place for budgeting and tracking your...

Countdown to 2015…4...

Are you happy with your spiritual life? If so, what do you want to keep doing to nurture it in 2015? If not, what is your plan to improve it? I have to have a plan and a system for things I want to accomplish. My spiritual life is no different. I’ve found that I must sett aside a devotional time each day; it is scheduled. When I was younger, it was a discipline that was somewhat challenging. Now it is a daily joy that I treasure. I rise in the morning, prepare my coffee, and sit in my comfortable chair with my tablet. On the tablet I access a devotional that comes everyday; it’s by Richard Rohr of the Center for Action and Contemplation who emails them out on a regular basis. I find I look forward to them! Whatever your faith, I encourage you to seek God and Truth; you will find both. And combat the negativity around you by focusing on goodness, love and life. I am a Christ-follower, so I invest time in Christian disciplines. Below I offer suggestions from my own practice and resources available. READ THE BIBLE: I read the Bible, using some sort of devotional plan. Some years I read the entire Bible in chronological order. Other years I focus on the New Testament or some other plan. Sometimes I read; sometimes I listen to an audio version. I also play around with different versions, because each one highlights different aspects. These are especially easy to access using a tablet or smartphone. But of course you can use an old-fashioned print Bible. Consider using it this year along with a reading plan you get from the Internet. Here are some great Bible phone and tablet apps: YouVersion, Bible Gateway,...

Countdown to 2015…5...

Besides enjoying the holidays, you are likely thinking about the coming year. Perhaps you’re even thinking of making some health resolutions! But according to Forbes Magazine, 92% of us fail to realize our resolutions. There seems to be a systematic problem with resolutions. I “wish” I lost weight or was more spiritual are just that, WISHES! Making systematic goals that are SMART are much more helpful. SMART goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely. For example, you want to be healthier. But how will you DO IT? Specific: I want to lose 10 pounds (4.5 kilos) by March 1st and build body strength. Measurable: My goal is 2 months away, so I need to lose 2.5 pound a month. How? I will mostly illuminate high-sugar carbohydrates like bread and sugars, visit the gym for at least one hour 3 times a week, and have no more than 1 serving of alcohol per day. Attainable: I will shop and prepare lots of vegetables and meat. I will reevaluate my schedule and plan when I visit the gym. On those days, I WILL go to the gym, not decide that day if I want to go or not (because I will usually want to go home or otherwise opt out; I will make saying, “no” NOT an option. During my 3 gym visits, I will 1) swim, 2) do a yoga class, and 3) lift weights. Realistic: This is a realistic goal. Losing 10 pounds in 1 week is not. I can achieve my goal by doing the things listed above. Timely: I will lose 10 pounds (4.5 kilos) by March 1st. Life changes do not just happen; you have to make them happen. Think about what you really want this year and put systems in place that will allow...

Countdown to 2015…6...

As we wind down another year, it’s a perfect time to reflect on the past and look toward the future. You might find it helpful to make some lists, journal, or otherwise intentionally reflect. What was the best thing that happened in your life this year? What were the circumstances surrounding that thing and what did you do to make it better or worse? How would you rate six key areas of your life (career, health and fitness, money, personal development, relationships and spirituality? (Right click on the Rate Your Life graphic Life below to download and print the wheel; then rate all six areas and draw a line between them.) How even (and balanced) is your inner circle? What are one or two areas that really stand out for improvement? What is an something(s) you were not happy with in 2014? How might you work on them in 2015? Start reflecting. Later in this series we’ll deal with how to make SMART goals that are actually achievable.  ...

019: Change Your Perceptions, Change Your Life Dec26

019: Change Your Perceptions, Change Your Life...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/19-ReginaPerceptions.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 33:56 — 46.6MB)We all view the world from our limited perspectives. We selectively perceive through our senses, organize what we taken in via our personal mind maps, then make judgments based on our unique personalities, culture and experiences. Realizing that we and others live out of our perceptions is key in understanding how we and others do life so differently, and essential for navigating relationships. Dr. Regina Lewis and Dr. Deb discuss this key area that is central to personal success, and why chaning our perceptions is often important in order to move forward. “What got you HERE won’t get you THERE.” – Dr. Regina Lewis To read more about Dr. Lewis’ speaking and training work, visit her website: http://reginaspeaking.com You can contact her at: reginaspeaking@mac.com Articles related to this topic can be found at Get Control Of Your Life: Perception Checking Know Thyself (with information about the Johari Window) Finding Fault that explains the challenge to be loving when we just want to be right Dr. Lewis mentioned Ruby Payne’s work on understanding poverty. You can read more about her here: http://www.ahaprocess.com/who-we-are/dr-ruby-payne/ Check out here books...

Quote of the Day

“I am a mass of contradictions and yet I am also a saint. I am a very good person, and I am also a sinful person. I get it and yet I oppose it too.” “Once we know that God lives inside our contradictions, and God’s love is not dependent on our perfection, then other peoples’ contradictions don’t scandalize us or surprise us anymore. Henceforward we can be much more patient and compassionate with others because we have allowed God to do the same with us!” Taken from Richard Rohr’s little book, Preparing for Christmas: Daily Medications for Advent. (2013) Franciscan Media. Royalty-free image courtsey of Savann; retrieved from http://www.freeimages.com/photo/503576...

018: Love God Hate Church? Dec19

018: Love God Hate Church?...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/18-Jack_Love_God_Hate_Church_.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 26:30 — 24.3MB)Don’t like to go to church but want a deep spiritual life? Starting with his own journey, Jack Woloshun talks with Dr. Deb talk about faith, belonging and laying down your life as a gift to others. This is an affirming message for those who find they don’t fit into many current religious systems and therefore feel they have no place at the spiritual...

Generosity Dec18

Generosity

This is a short video produced by a communication company in Thailand. The message is universal…and always timely. Watch it and look for ways you can pay it...

Healthy Ramen

Healthy ramen; sounds like an oxymoron. But it doesn’t have to be. Ramen noodles are the most popular dish in Japan, a staple of cash-strapped college students, and an easy meal for busy Westerners. In fact, some 94 billion packages are consumed every year! They’re cheap and fast, loaded with carbohydrates and salt. But they don’t have to be bad for you. Toss in some goodness, and you can have an affordable meal that is both satisfying and nourishing. I watched the first episode of the TV series, The Mind of A Chef, where David Chang traveled to Japan to trace the history of the famous ramen noddle.” “The soup first appeared in Yokohama where the broth is fatty and salty. In Hakodate, the soup is pork and chicken based. In Sapporo, it’s miso-based. In Kitakata, the noodles are flat.” As the show when on to demonstrate, ramen is always being tinkered with and the center of new and experimental recipes. The dried instant noodles we know today were invented by Momofuku Ando in 1954 to help feed his war-torn country. What is unique about ramen is that they stay firm in a soupy base because of how they’re manufactured.** Asians would rarely think of eating ramen noodle by themselves.–even with the flavoring and microscopic vegetables that come with many brands. Ramen are meant to be consumed as part of a healthy meal with vegetables and protein (meat, seafood, egg or tofu). Eating ramen noodles by themselves may give you a little energy from the carbohydrates, but you will hardly be eating a healthy meal with the macro and micro nutrients you body needs! You don’t have to live in Japan or even visit an Asian restaurant to eat healthy ramen. Quick and Dirty...

017: How You Think Matters Dec10

017: How You Think Matters...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/17-How_You_Think_Matters-Jack.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 22:07 — 20.3MB)Jack Woloshun and Dr. Deb discuss theological & philosophical views that determine how you live your life. How you view how the world works really does influence what you value and the choices you make. At the end we mention a documentary, Lord Save Us From Your Followers. You may find it a refreshing take on the faith, especially if you are one who has been hurt by the church or otherwise found that you no longer...

016: Living Intentionally Dec03

016: Living Intentionally...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/16-Living_Intentionally_with_Jack_Woloshun.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 26:34 — 24.3MB)Jack Woloshun talks about his faith, friends, finding his core purpose and living intentionally. A former football coach, Jack is a father, grandfather, pastor, mentor, carpet layer and friend to many, many people. He has a knack for sharing truths in non-religious terms that is very refreshing. After you listen to this episode, you will KNOW...

Preparing for Christmas...

I have re-posted my article, What Is Advent? If you haven’t read it, check it out. This is the time in the church calendar when people of faith prepare for Christmas. It starts four Sundays before December 25th, starting on November 30th this year. This is a meaningful season for me, and has been since I started reading the church calendar lectionary for Advent a few years ago. It made Christmas so much more meaningful. However, I like to keep things fresh by trying new things, so I did a little looking and found some awesome resources for this year. You might do some looking around yourself, though here are some places to start: FIND ADVENT READING PLAN: If you use a digital bible (like on a tablet), check to see what Advent devotionals are offered. These range from a daily bible verse to extended readings as well as devotional thoughts written by pastors and spiritual directors. FIND ADVENT SMARTPHONE/TABLET APPS: I checked the Apple App store and found a few free apps I started using. There are even more app available if you’re willing to pay. “Advent 2013” has a daily psalm everyday from November 30th to January 5th (the day before Epiphany). I couldn’t find and equivalent for 2014, but decided I could just use last year’s. “Musical Advent Calendar” I found these for 2013 and 2014 that have different music. Click on the day and hear a sacred musical piece. These are perfect on a cold morning during your meditation or spiritual devotional time. “Advent Devotions” is a little app that includes a scripture reading, reflection and prayer through December 25th. The Android App store has several apps for Droid phones and tablets. FOLLOW ADVENT WEBSITES: Check out my friend Christine Sine’s...

What Is Advent?

Holiday music is playing in the stores.  Newspapers land on doorsteps swollen to twice their normal size because of ads. Boxes are pulled from attics and garages with adornments for the home. Special treats are prepared. And money is being spent on gifts that are needed or not. The Christmas season is upon us. The period of preparation in the liturgical church is called Advent. So what is it? The word advent comes from two Latin words: ad (to) and vent (come). Advent is a noun that means, “the arrival of a notable person, thing or event.” For example, we might refer to the advent of the Internet. Advent is a season that leads up to Christmas, when Christ-followers remember the coming of Jesus Christ, when God became human. The reason for Advent in the Christian church calendar is to prepare for the coming of Christ. But it has more than one purpose. While most may think it refers to the first coming of Christ (with images of the little baby in a manger), it also refers to the second coming of Christ. After 33 years on earth, Jesus sacrificed His life, then returned to His Father with the promise of coming again. Advent begins on the Sunday closest to November 30th and is celebrated during the four weeks leading to Christmas. It is often marked with special readings, prayers and candles. A popular European tradition is to mark each day with a special Advent calendar containing little windows or boxes that hold bible verses or surprises. Second best is to be distracted from the best. Madison Avenue and your local big box stores want your business. They have dressed up their windows, filled them with glittery stuff, and enticed you through bargains. These...

What Are You Thankful For?...

Americans are celebrating Thanksgiving today. It’s a time to reflect on what is most meaningful in our lives. What matters most? What are you thankful for? If you ask most people, they don’t think about the new big screen TV or how much they made in the stock market. They think about relationships–which really are the most precious things in our lives. Here are what some responses from people I asked: GABE: Family & friends. Hanging out with family. My new nephew. That my big brother didn’t marry a psycho. My  brother (currently serving with the Army overseas) and my new sister-in-law.   MELINA: (The new sister-in-law): My 2nd family. A really good (1st) baby      NOEL: Freedom to worship the Lord, the gift of life, family and friends.     ISAAC: Family and friends and all the things that keep us alive.     XAYA: Food, water, shelte, gymnastics. Everybody around me. Being able to live with the Lord.     CHRIS: Freedom, rights and family. Glad I’m home and not somewhere protecting your freedom (Chris is a Marine).      ERICK: Family and everything they do for me.      CHRISTINA: A husband that provides (the Marine). Always family.      OLIVER: My first Thanksgiving.     DEBRA: Family and friends around the world, a loving God who is not a monster, hot showers, electricity, running water, heat, easy transportation, the Internet, digital technologies, fun and fulillment. What a great time to be alive!     This is Thanksgiving Day. Don’t cheapen it to “Turkey...