I Quit! Nov12

I Quit!

“Quitters never win and winners never quit.” So said American football legend Vince Lombardi in what has become conventional wisdom. But sometimes, conventional wisdom isn’t very wise. In his little book, the dip, Seth Godin claims that winners quit all the time. They just quit the right stuff at the right time. The dip is one of two books on quitting I’ve read recently. The other is Quitter by Jon Acuff. Both authors claim that quitting is not always wrong; in fact, strategic quitting can be fantastic! In the past year, I re-evaluated various aspects of my life, including my financial health, priorities, career and personal development. I was stuck and knew I needed to make some changes. I actually quit. I didn’t quit my job with a non-profit completely, but I quit doing things out of obligation. I changed from working harder to working smarter. I quit some things in order to start other things. For me quitting was not about giving up, but about making some changes in order to go forward. The implications have been phenomenal. I am more fulfilled, am making more meaningful contributions with others, and am financially more secure. In order to go forward, we often have to QUIT something. Seth Godin says that initiatives, jobs, hobbies and companies start out exciting and fun. After an exciting start, we experience “the dip,” a time when we get discouraged and feel like giving up. Make your own application. Is yours school? A relationship? A dream? The dip can be a temporary setback and will get better if you push through it. But it also might be a cul-de-sac (dead end) or a cliff that will be your certain demise. A key is knowing how to read the dips and respond...

How Successful People Think Oct13

How Successful People Think...

I saw a great movie. Well it wasn’t a great MOVIE, but it was a GREAT STORY about a GREAT MAN. The film was Gifted Hands: The Ben Carson Story. Dr. Ben Carson is one of the most celebrated neurosurgeons in the world. He pioneered new surgeries, forcing himself to consider techniques that had never been thought of. In 1987 he successfully separated craniopagus (Simese) twin boys joined at the head, saving the lives of both infants. (All previous attempts by others had always resulted in the loss of one twin.) Dr. Carson’s road to a successful career at Johns Hopkins was anything but easy. He was not born with a silver spoon in his mouth; his parents were not social aristocrats. Ben, in fact, was raised by a single illiterate mother who simply believed in her two boys and pushed them beyond themselves. As a kid, Ben was a handful; he made poor grades, had a terrible temper and suffered low self-esteem. Later his wife miscarried twins and he endured racism from medical colleagues. Though she was uneducated, Ben’s mother understood the power of education. While working as a housekeeper for an avid bookworm, she took a cue from his turned-off television veiled by stacks of books. She restricted TV-watching at home and  required her boys to read two books a week. That was life-changing. Ben’s grades improved and he developed a life-long passion for learning. In his book, How Successful People Think: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life, John Maxwell shared six key lifestyle principles: Expose Yourself to Good Input. He wrote, “Good thinkers always prime the pump of ideas. They always look for things to get the thinking process started, because what you put in always impacts what comes out… Read...

Roles

We all have to fit into various roles in our families, careers and life. Here is an article about adjusting and making roles fit you rather just making you fit roles. It is written by Shan Moore. Motherhood is accepted as one of life’s most fulfilling and enriching experiences. We are told over and over again that the day you meet the little life you created, your heart will be overwhelmed with a love so deep, it even exceeds what you feel for your significant other. There is some truth to this. HOWEVER, what we aren’t told is that the authentic, deep love you feel for your newborn will consist of two equal parts; 1) adoration and 2) being scared sh*tless. My first pregnancy was three years ago. I was 28 and couldn’t imagine feeling any less equipped. I remember weeks of random, senseless crying and nighttime bouts of loneliness and fear. “Is an 8-pound child really going to successfully plow through my pelvis?!” These were troubles that I was sure—a self-confident, happily married woman—should NOT be facing. How do other women go through with this and not completely fall apart inside? The formula, I thought, was after you’ve had your share of dancing on the bar for tequila shots, been married for 5 years, and traveled the world, you’d be ready. Right? I did my best at blaming all my insecurities and withdrawn behavior on hormones. But how could this experience be so far off from the tender bliss of motherhood I’d heard all about? The problem was, I’d allowed my peers, society, and silly ideals to determine my expectations for this life-changing event. Life can be like that. People expect us to behave in certain ways. And sometimes we don’t fit the...

Reasons Resumes are Rejected Aug02

Reasons Resumes are Rejected

Are you looking for work? Not getting responses to your resumes? Statistics show that most jobs are obtained through interpersonal contacts. Your chances of finding a job by posting your resume online is almost nil. However, if you are being faithful to work through your networks (friends, family, colleagues, etc) you still need to have an effective resume. Here are problems you should...

Finding Your Why Jun21

Finding Your Why

What do Martin Luther King, Apple, and the Wright brothers have in common? They think, act, and communicate the same way–and it’s opposite to everyone else. So says Canadian, Simon Sinek, author of Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action. Sinek says our lives and careers function on three levels: What we do How we do it, and Why we do it. He claims we usually only understand the first two, but success comes in understanding the third. Why. Sinek claims a key to the success of any career or business, is having a complete understanding of why you do what do, then being able to communicate that. The following is taken from an interview Sinek did with the EntreLeadership Podcast. “A why is born out of our own experience.  It comes from us. Our why is formed entirely probably by the time we’re 19 or 20. And so the rest of our lives are really the opportunity to bring our why’s to life. ” The decisions we make either keep us in balance with our why (meaning our how/what are in balance with our why) or they’re not. And the times it is, everything feels good, everything seems to go perfectly, everything we touch turns to gold, we enjoy everything no matter how hard we work. “When things are out of balance, everything becomes a struggle, passion goes down, stress goes up, we become more obsessed with our competition than with ourselves. “And so to find yourself you really go backwards. You don’t ask the outside world, you look at your own life or your own business, and you look for patterns. “There are consistent patterns, which is when everything seems to be great. You see a commonality, which is...

Finding Your Jobs Jun11

Finding Your Jobs

As I watched the live broadcast of the recent Apple Developer’s Conference, I couldn’t help but think of the late Steve Jobs. He was the mastermind of Apple hardware and software that became synonymous with cool and elegant productivity. Then I remembered something Jon Acuff had said in an interview: “What’s your Steve Jobs? not, What’s your version of being Steve Jobs?” The question is, “Who are you?” not, “Who do you want to be like?” I’ve been watching Steve Jobs: The Lost Interview on Netflix. The interview was recorded in 1995, after Jobs had been fired from the company he created, and a year before returning. Can you imagine having your creation ripped from your arms and being thrown to the curb? (We forget the hardships successful people have endured and think we’re the only ones who experience pain and rejection.) Even in what must have been a very dark period, Jobs had a very strong sense of who he was, and continued to attract creative designers and engineers to develop new products. He was an innovator who was constantly pushing the boundaries of technologies; he changed all our lives. He had passion and believed in beauty and elegance. He was never satisfied to accept the status quo. Even in hardship, he remained true to himself. He never tried to be Bill Gates, or anyone else. Uncovering our true identity is a life-long journey. As we grow, we morph, adapt and hopefully become more of who we want to be. There is the temptation to lose our moral compass, give up, compromise, be tempted to deviate from our core, or worse, pretend to be someone we’re not. Fakes are never as good as the real thing. The authentic is always better. As Acuff...

Secret to Success Apr16

Secret to Success

Video – How badly to you want to succeed? Do you want it as much as you want to breathe? Here is an awesome 14-minute video by Eric Thomas, a motivational speaker who believes it’s not where you come from, but where you’re going. Eric Thomas’s book is The Secret to Success, available as a Kindle book for only $7.69. Eric is also known as E.T., The Hip Hop Preacher. He is available as a speaker; you can find his web site here: http://etinspires.com...

Why Getting Control Of It ALL Is So Important Apr11

Why Getting Control Of It ALL Is So Important

“We like to pretend sometimes that we are made up of a system of buckets. We like to think we can live, ‘what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas,’ moments in one area of our lives without affecting other areas. It’s just not true. If you’re ailing in one portion of your life, it tends to infect the other portions. If there’s poison in a glass of water, no one says, ‘be careful, the middle of that water is poisoned.’ The same principle applies to your work.” – Jon Acuff, author of Quitter: Closing the Gap Between Your Day Job and Your Dream...

Career Goals Mar21

Career Goals

“ If you don’t set goals for yourself, you’re doomed to achieve the goals of someone else.” – As cited by Dan Miller in EntreLeadership podcast, Dec 19, 2011 Miller is a life coach and the author of 48 Days to the Work you Love: Preparing for the New Normal, and No More Mondays: Fire Yourself and other Revolutionary Ways to Discover Your True Calling at Work. Both books are available in print, Kindle edition and audio....

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