Opportunity Jun17

Opportunity

You ended up grabbing the first thing that came along because you needed to pay the rent and eat. The job didn’t turn out they way you thought it should. And at the end of a few years, you ask, “Is this all there is until retirement?” Careers can be a roller coaster. Jobs come and go. I want to share an excerpt from one of my favorite authors, Seth Godin, from his book, Graceful. It will give you some thoughts and inspiration to ponder about your job life and career. What changed? We grew up with the factory. Not simply the smelly, smoke-belching aluminum refinery in town. No, I’m talking about the insurance agent down the street, the accounting firm in New York and the bank in the skyscraper downtown. These are factories because they do what all factories do: they create what they created yesterday, but faster and cheaper. Factories are about predictable scalability, about scarcity, and most of all, about compliance. A factory demands a compliant workforce in order to succeed. And so we’ve organized around this idea of compliance in all things—in school, in the foods we eat, in the way we respond to marketing. And it’s a dead end. The factory is a dead end and so is compliance. More obedience will not make us better. That’s why graceful is in such demand. Businesses that are based on conformity and compliance are having trouble achieving their growth targets. Politicians that depend on wholesale acceptance of the status quo are finding it difficult to get re-elected. Non-profits that count on the same donors to contribute in the same way are struggling as well. At the same time, we’re seeing an explosion in new approaches, new models and new forms of interaction....

Creativity

You are creative. Maybe you don’t think you are, but you are actually a very creative person. If you’re like me, you were intimidated by some classmates in elementary school named Laura or Scottie who seemed to draw like a pro. Not only were they polite, and brilliant, but they seemed so incredibly creative. For me, it was Laura, the pastor’s daughter at the parochial elementary school I attended. When people around us are recognized as smart or creative, is sends a not-so-subtle message that you’re NOT! Comparing ourselves to others is a natural social phenomenon, yet it is often unhelpful. So back to creativity. How do I know you are creative? It’s because science and religion point to you being both FROM and PART OF the vast universe. The nature we are part of is full of magnificent wonder. Birds, waves, animal behavior, the formation of storms, the regeneration of life…it’s all most incredible. You are made of the same stuff, except are even more. You have intelligence, communication skills, reasoning, emotion and so many other attributes that are not less than the rest of the world, they are more! Unlike the plants and animals, you were actually made in the likeness of the Divine—the intimate intelligence and creativity of the universe. Just think about that for a moment. You are actually a descendant of, but you also share the DNA of the creative force of our universe and beyond. So that’s pretty cool, right? NO, that’s FREAKIN’ AMAZING! That means you have the ability to be remarkable. I’ve found that creativity manifests itself in surprising ways. Though you may not be able to paint, sculpt or even create a gorgeous garden, you are creative. Think about the times you were financially challenged and made an...

The Thing

What was it and when did you lose it? What was the thing that made you think, YES! to life? What was the thing that made you want to get out of bed in the morning? What was the thing that put a magnificent, unadulterated, unashamed smile on your face? And where did it go? We all have this amazing ability to create life, to make fun, to come up with something that wasn’t there before! We were all born with passion! But then something or some things happened and we lost the thing. It went away. It no longer was the focus of our affection. What happened? How long has it been since you even thought about it? You are the only one like you in the world; you made stuff. You had ideas. You created a little corner of joy that nobody else ever did. Think about it. Go for a walk. Meditate. Or just give yourself permission to consider it again. What was it? Where did it go? Why did you drop it? Did life get in the way? Did somebody try to steal it? Did you think it had no more value? Was it not socially acceptable? Only you know about the thing. Maybe your thing used to be painting, singing, restoring old cars. Maybe it was hosting social gatherings or poetry readings. Maybe it was spending time alone with each of your kids, or going on real dates with your lover. Or maybe it was giving yourself to have a lover at all. Whatever your thing or things were, how about getting them back? If they were the things that made your heart sings, aren’t they worth reclaiming? Maybe life got in the way…really in the way. But consider...

Friends

There are friends by convenience. There are friends by blood. There are TV, Friends. And there are friends you deliberately choose to share life with (that make TV Friends look like playing house.) We’ve all experienced all of these. I am so glad to have a group of friends that see each other twice a month. We actually schedule it. And while some in the world might think it’s a strange thing to have to schedule a meting, by American standards, we find organizing ourselves on a regular schedule is great. We like it that way. It works for us. I started the group 2 1/2 years ago because I felt the need to form a group to go through life with. And apparently it struck a cord with the others as well. Relationships and groups can form over many touch points. They can share similar interests, like golf or cards. They can form because of a common faith. They can organize around almost anything. My group had two prominent things in common: They knew me. They were all in the same decade of life sharing similar challenges and goals. We decided to meet twice a week to see how it went. While I tried to introduce an agenda several times, the group has mostly just enjoyed the social aspect. They know it’s a place where they can eat and drink, relax and just share their lives. And everyone seems to think it’s really good thing. How is your social life? Have you considered being very deliberate about starting a group centered on something in common? Do you feel there is a group of folsk who could use a friend, enjoy a place to fit, and just do life together? You have much to give....

028: Community Gathered & Community Scattered May30

028: Community Gathered & Community Scattered...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/28-Community-Jeannette_-.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 27:33 — 25.2MB)Today we can be connected to people in real time all over the world. We share our lives with those who are physically close to us, and those who are far away. We connect face-to-face and via our devices. In this interesting conversation, Jeannette Slater and Dr. Deb talk about the advantages and challenges of community gathered and community scattered, and how we might be intentional to build both. Are you ready for a new community? You won’t believe the number out there. You might check out http://www.meetup.com for some idea of the many interests that gather...

Religionless Christianity...

What is the difference between religion and true spirituality? I have found that many people today are turned off by religion, but are still interested in seeking truth, spirituality and God. I think it’s a worthwhile topic. So it is with enthusiasm that I share Richard Rohr’s Daily Meditation on (Pentecost) Sunday, May 24th (2015). It’s one of those I thought was too good not to pass on. “Most religious searches begin with one massive misperception. People tend to start by making a very unfortunate, yet understandable, division between the sacred and the profane worlds. Early stage religion focuses on identifying sacred places, sacred time, and seemingly sacred actions that then leaves the overwhelming majority of life unsacred. People are told to look for God in certain special places and in particular events–usually, it seems, ones controlled by the clergy. Perhaps this is related to the clergy’s need for job security, which is only natural. Early stage religion has limited the search for God to a very small field and thus it is largely ineffective–unless people keep seeing and knowing at larger levels. “In Franciscan (and true Christian) mysticism, there is finally no distinction between sacred and profane. The whole universe and all events are sacred (doorways to the divine) for those who know how to see. In other words, everything that happens is potentially sacred if you allow it to be. Our job as humans is to make admiration of reality and adoration of God fully conscious and intentional. Then everything is a prayer and an act of adoration. As the French friar Eloi Leclerc beautifully paraphrased Francis, “If we but knew how to adore, we could travel through the world with the tranquility of the great rivers. But only if we know...

027: Ultimativty May20

027: Ultimativty

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/27-Nathan_-_5_20_15__11.25_AM.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 30:26 — 27.9MB)Author of We’re Only Human and Gut Check, Nathan Slater discusses his unifying philosophy based on reality. He addresses the age-old question, “Why are some people able to overcome adversity while others aren’t?” The Ultimativity website: http://ultimativity.net/blog12/ Ultimatively Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/search/str/Nathan%20Slater%20ultimativity/keywords_top We mention a previous Get Control article on Perceptions you may find helpful in light of this...

Disappointments

What do you do when life does not work out the way you hoped it would? Do you feel defeated and let it destroy you? Do you get bitter or better? I recently applied for a teaching position that I thought was perfect. While I realized it would not be a complete dream job, it was one I thought was the best ticket for my future. It would offer a guaranteed salary with perks until I was ready to retire, which I could then do with dignity. I thought about the position for several years, then planned actively for it for a year. I spent hours preparing the cover letter and resume, and even did two mock interviews in preparation. I was invited to an initial interview, but not a second. Suddenly the goal I’d sought for so long was over. Just like that, it was over. In some ways I was crushed. I was extremely qualified and could not believe I was out. While I suspect all sorts of things about the process, I had to work through the disappointment and decide how to move forward. Perhaps you can think of times you have had high expectations and put your eggs into a particular basket, only to have the opportunity ripped away. When stuff happens, you have to realize that you have response choices. How do you turn the disappointment into something that does not crush you? How do you deal with the emotions? While emotional responses—such as shock, anger, surprise, sadness and disappointment—may be valid, they don’t have to dictate how you go forward. Own your emotions, realizing they are real and valid. Sometimes it’s helpful to examine your emotions and analyze what is behind them. For example, you might be really...

Top 10-#3 Try New Things...

We have an English expression that one can be stuck in a rut. A rut in the ground is created when repeated activity takes place in the same location. If you walk or drive in the same place everyday, you will create ruts or crevices in the ground. Over time, these can become huge. Our brains are no different. When you do things over and over and only occasionally deviate from sameness, your brain actually creates ruts. So the expression, “I’m in a rut,” is very literal. Scientists used to believe that the brain has little ability to change past childhood. But research since the 1960s shows the brain is like plastic; it has the ability to change as a result of new experiences. It can even rewire itself after suffering damage. I saw a documentary about a 95-year-old Japanese man who was still directing a preschool for special needs children. He had learned the Korean language in his 80s, and was learning Chinese in his 90s so he could travel to China to share his expertise on children. This man refused to retire into a rocking chair; he continued to live by pushing himself and learning new things. I think he might have a key to staying young. I once took a creative communication class. We were encouraged to alter our daily routines in order to spark creativity: take a different route home or brush your teeth with your other hand. If you’re a follower of this blog, you know I often quote the famous American basketball coach John Wooden. He said, “Five years from now, you’re the same person except for the people you’ve met and the books you’ve read.” So do something different today. Expose yourself to new ideas and experiences....

026: Going Nowhere in Every Direction Apr22

026: Going Nowhere in Every Direction...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/26-Going_Howhere_with_MJ_.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 19:12 — 17.6MB)Lacking a sense of direction can cause us to wander aimlessly. In this episode, you’ll learn from Dr. MelindaJoy Mingo about living with purpose and intention. She uses Alice in Wonderland and The Wizard of Oz to describe key principles we can implement to get growing. MJ is a life-changer. Whether she’s teaching, preaching, coaching or consulting,  she always brings a fresh, inspiring and articulate message. “There is no comfort when we are in a growth place. And there is no growth if we choose to remain in the comfort...