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What is your relationship plan for 2015? Do you long to spend more time with family or friends? Are there some relationships that need mending? How would you score this aspect of your life (from 1 to 10; see the Get Control “Rate Your Life” self-assessment tool to rate yourself on your career, health and fitness, money, personal development, relationships and spirituality. I’ve come to realize that relationships need care and feeding; you have to be intentional about them. It’s easy to become withdrawn and just stay home. But is this healthy all the time? Two years ago I became intentional about nurturing relationships with a handful of friends. I formed a group that continues to meet twice a month. We drink wine and eat snacks; but mostly we share life together. It has become very precious for all involved. Think about who you would like to spend time with this year and form a plan for doing so. Make a list of folks you might want to meet for coffee or a meal. Then schedule it! You need people in your life. You need their influence, input and energy. They have much to invest in you, but you must avail yourself. You also have much to give! There is no one like you and no one who brings that you bring. Your unique personality, experiences and giftings can make a huge difference to those around you. Consider these words as you begin the new year: “If you’re not happy in life then you need to change, calibrate, readjust…flush your negative energy and fill it with positive energy; How do we do that you might ask? Well I would start by making others happy; diseases are not the only things that spread easy. We...

Countdown to 2015…3 Dec30

Countdown to 2015…3...

What are your financial goals for the new year? Get out of debt? Save more for retirement? Be more generous? SET SMART GOALS – Whatever your financial desires, make sure you turn them into SMART goals that are: Specific: Exactly what do you want your money to do for you (and others)? Measurable: Break down your financial goals into practical solutions. How much extra would you have to earn per month to pay off debt or more easily pay your bills? How much do you need to save in order to attain your spending or saving goals? Experts recommend you put real numbers on paper so you can measure your success. Attainable: You likely won’t become a millionaire in the next six months unless you’re well on your way already! Set goals that are actually attainable or doable. And don’t bother buying lottery tickets or hoping for other financial windfalls; you have a much greater chance of being hit by lightning. Financial success usually comes the old fashioned way, by work and praying for it! Realistic: Set goals that you actually have a chance of accomplishing. You can’t work 200 hours a week, but you can likely do more than you’re currently doing. How would giving away 10% instead of 5% affect your bottom line? How would working more affect your family? How long would you have to save to get that thing you want to buy? Try to differentiate between your desires and realistic goals you can actually meet. Timely: Set a realistic timeframe for accomplishing your financial goals? At X$ per month, how long would it take to________________? USE A BUDGET AND TRACK YOUR SPENDING – In addition, it’s vital to have the right systems in place for budgeting and tracking your...

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Are you happy with your spiritual life? If so, what do you want to keep doing to nurture it in 2015? If not, what is your plan to improve it? I have to have a plan and a system for things I want to accomplish. My spiritual life is no different. I’ve found that I must sett aside a devotional time each day; it is scheduled. When I was younger, it was a discipline that was somewhat challenging. Now it is a daily joy that I treasure. I rise in the morning, prepare my coffee, and sit in my comfortable chair with my tablet. On the tablet I access a devotional that comes everyday; it’s by Richard Rohr of the Center for Action and Contemplation who emails them out on a regular basis. I find I look forward to them! Whatever your faith, I encourage you to seek God and Truth; you will find both. And combat the negativity around you by focusing on goodness, love and life. I am a Christ-follower, so I invest time in Christian disciplines. Below I offer suggestions from my own practice and resources available. READ THE BIBLE: I read the Bible, using some sort of devotional plan. Some years I read the entire Bible in chronological order. Other years I focus on the New Testament or some other plan. Sometimes I read; sometimes I listen to an audio version. I also play around with different versions, because each one highlights different aspects. These are especially easy to access using a tablet or smartphone. But of course you can use an old-fashioned print Bible. Consider using it this year along with a reading plan you get from the Internet. Here are some great Bible phone and tablet apps: YouVersion, Bible Gateway,...

Countdown to 2015…5...

Besides enjoying the holidays, you are likely thinking about the coming year. Perhaps you’re even thinking of making some health resolutions! But according to Forbes Magazine, 92% of us fail to realize our resolutions. There seems to be a systematic problem with resolutions. I “wish” I lost weight or was more spiritual are just that, WISHES! Making systematic goals that are SMART are much more helpful. SMART goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely. For example, you want to be healthier. But how will you DO IT? Specific: I want to lose 10 pounds (4.5 kilos) by March 1st and build body strength. Measurable: My goal is 2 months away, so I need to lose 2.5 pound a month. How? I will mostly illuminate high-sugar carbohydrates like bread and sugars, visit the gym for at least one hour 3 times a week, and have no more than 1 serving of alcohol per day. Attainable: I will shop and prepare lots of vegetables and meat. I will reevaluate my schedule and plan when I visit the gym. On those days, I WILL go to the gym, not decide that day if I want to go or not (because I will usually want to go home or otherwise opt out; I will make saying, “no” NOT an option. During my 3 gym visits, I will 1) swim, 2) do a yoga class, and 3) lift weights. Realistic: This is a realistic goal. Losing 10 pounds in 1 week is not. I can achieve my goal by doing the things listed above. Timely: I will lose 10 pounds (4.5 kilos) by March 1st. Life changes do not just happen; you have to make them happen. Think about what you really want this year and put systems in place that will allow...

Countdown to 2015…6...

As we wind down another year, it’s a perfect time to reflect on the past and look toward the future. You might find it helpful to make some lists, journal, or otherwise intentionally reflect. What was the best thing that happened in your life this year? What were the circumstances surrounding that thing and what did you do to make it better or worse? How would you rate six key areas of your life (career, health and fitness, money, personal development, relationships and spirituality? (Right click on the Rate Your Life graphic Life below to download and print the wheel; then rate all six areas and draw a line between them.) How even (and balanced) is your inner circle? What are one or two areas that really stand out for improvement? What is an something(s) you were not happy with in 2014? How might you work on them in 2015? Start reflecting. Later in this series we’ll deal with how to make SMART goals that are actually achievable.  ...

019: Change Your Perceptions, Change Your Life Dec26

019: Change Your Perceptions, Change Your Life...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/19-ReginaPerceptions.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 33:56 — 46.6MB)Subscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSWe all view the world from our limited perspectives. We selectively perceive through our senses, organize what we taken in via our personal mind maps, then make judgments based on our unique personalities, culture and experiences. Realizing that we and others live out of our perceptions is key in understanding how we and others do life so differently, and essential for navigating relationships. Dr. Regina Lewis and Dr. Deb discuss this key area that is central to personal success, and why chaning our perceptions is often important in order to move forward. “What got you HERE won’t get you THERE.” – Dr. Regina Lewis To read more about Dr. Lewis’ speaking and training work, visit her website: http://reginaspeaking.com You can contact her at: reginaspeaking@mac.com Articles related to this topic can be found at Get Control Of Your Life: Perception Checking Know Thyself (with information about the Johari Window) Finding Fault that explains the challenge to be loving when we just want to be right Dr. Lewis mentioned Ruby Payne’s work on understanding poverty. You can read more about her here: http://www.ahaprocess.com/who-we-are/dr-ruby-payne/ Check out here books...

Quote of the Day

“I am a mass of contradictions and yet I am also a saint. I am a very good person, and I am also a sinful person. I get it and yet I oppose it too.” “Once we know that God lives inside our contradictions, and God’s love is not dependent on our perfection, then other peoples’ contradictions don’t scandalize us or surprise us anymore. Henceforward we can be much more patient and compassionate with others because we have allowed God to do the same with us!” Taken from Richard Rohr’s little book, Preparing for Christmas: Daily Medications for Advent. (2013) Franciscan Media. Royalty-free image courtsey of Savann; retrieved from http://www.freeimages.com/photo/503576...

018: Love God Hate Church? Dec19

018: Love God Hate Church?...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/18-Jack_Love_God_Hate_Church_.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 26:30 — 24.3MB)Subscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSDon’t like to go to church but want a deep spiritual life? Starting with his own journey, Jack Woloshun talks with Dr. Deb talk about faith, belonging and laying down your life as a gift to others. This is an affirming message for those who find they don’t fit into many current religious systems and therefore feel they have no place at the spiritual...

Generosity Dec18

Generosity

This is a short video produced by a communication company in Thailand. The message is universal…and always timely. Watch it and look for ways you can pay it...

Healthy Ramen

Healthy ramen; sounds like an oxymoron. But it doesn’t have to be. Ramen noodles are the most popular dish in Japan, a staple of cash-strapped college students, and an easy meal for busy Westerners. In fact, some 94 billion packages are consumed every year! They’re cheap and fast, loaded with carbohydrates and salt. But they don’t have to be bad for you. Toss in some goodness, and you can have an affordable meal that is both satisfying and nourishing. I watched the first episode of the TV series, The Mind of A Chef, where David Chang traveled to Japan to trace the history of the famous ramen noddle.” “The soup first appeared in Yokohama where the broth is fatty and salty. In Hakodate, the soup is pork and chicken based. In Sapporo, it’s miso-based. In Kitakata, the noodles are flat.” As the show when on to demonstrate, ramen is always being tinkered with and the center of new and experimental recipes. The dried instant noodles we know today were invented by Momofuku Ando in 1954 to help feed his war-torn country. What is unique about ramen is that they stay firm in a soupy base because of how they’re manufactured.** Asians would rarely think of eating ramen noodle by themselves.–even with the flavoring and microscopic vegetables that come with many brands. Ramen are meant to be consumed as part of a healthy meal with vegetables and protein (meat, seafood, egg or tofu). Eating ramen noodles by themselves may give you a little energy from the carbohydrates, but you will hardly be eating a healthy meal with the macro and micro nutrients you body needs! You don’t have to live in Japan or even visit an Asian restaurant to eat healthy ramen. Quick and Dirty...

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