The Podcast Is Here!

The Get Control Of Your Life Podcast is here! It includes conversations between Dr. Deb and all sorts of fascinating people who have worked hard to get control of their lives. They bring expertise in topics as diverse as volunteerism, exercise, life coaching, developing a vibrant spiritual life, and tools for success. We also have a cool intro by a real British guy! Not sure what a podcast is? It’s like radio that you stream or download from the internet. The cool thing about a podcast is you can listen to podcasts about very specific topics you’re interested in. Popular apps and services allow you to access podcasts about topics you are interested in. When you subscribe, you are automatically notified whenever new episodes are released. The Get Control Of Your Life podcast is about growing a strong and fruitful life. It’s available on this site. Click on the top right item “Podcast”on the menu or just click here. The podcast is available FREE to Mac and iOs (iPhone/iPad/iPod) (and even PC) users from the iTunes Store:  It’s available to Android and PC users via Stitcher. Download the free app here or listen directly from the Stitcher website. The podcast is completely free. No one will ask you for anything except to reflect on the content (produced to inspire you and give you resources to grow a strong and fruitful life). Have a listen. If you like it, tell a friend. And please rate the podcast and leave a comment; it will help our ranking and make it easier for others to find us. Image designed by Rita Burke of http://www.burkepromotions.com with assistance from Kristina Storey http://fineartamerica.com/profiles/kristina-storey.html Many, many thanks to the coolest techie guy I know, Rodney Blevins, for his many hours to make this podcast happen. Thanks also to our...

Do You Have A Dream?

August 28th marks the 51st anniversary of the landmark civil rights march on Washington, where Martin Luther King delivered his most remembered speech, “I have a dream.” I’ve become fairly familiar with the famous speech in recent years, playing it for my community college students as a brilliant and well-delivered example of a speech (and to inspire them to something bigger than themselves). If you haven’t seen it in awhile, I encourage you to watch it online: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=smEqnnklfYs On that sunny 1963 day, thousands of Americans converged on Washington D.C. to march for civil rights—equal opportunities for all Americans. This followed more than 1300 protest that had already taken place in other locations.* My friend Mike Miller was there, having ridden on a bus he organized from Mississippi. He said the excitement [of the dream] was palpable, as was a little fear of what opponents might do. There was power in the speeches and the crowd of more than 200,000. “We joined a mass of people larger than anyone had ever been part of,” he told me. The crowd in Washington was there to resist the status quo. The status quo included legalized and rigid racial discrimination, a tiered class systems that preferred some at the expense of others, corrupt justice, voting discrimination, and a pecking order that gave part of the population the worst schools, the lowest jobs and the crummiest places to live. Even as a white person I experienced “red lining” in the section of the city where I lived; it was predetermined by people in power in smoke-filled backrooms to be “the black part of town.” And it happened. The status quo is comfortable. But world-changers don’t go with the status quo. As Ingrid Bergman’s missionary character, Gladys Aylward, said in the 1958 film, The Inn of the Sixth Happiness, “You have to interfere with what is wrong if you hope to make it right.” Martin Luther King began his speech by following his notes, but then his passion kicked in and so did his improvisation. According to Clarence Jones, King’s lawyer, speechwriter and confidant, the words “I have a dream” were not even written into the speech.** The words came as King got fired up and spoke from his heart. It could only come out of his mouth if it was in his heart. In an 18-minute speech delivered at a TED (Technology, Entertainment. Design) event in 2010, Nancy Durante started with the line, “You have the power to change the world.” She then went on to compare the structure and similarities of King’s, “I have a dream,” speech with Steve Job’s 2007 iPhone launch. Both were masters at describing and contrasting WHAT WAS with WHAT COULD BE. King talked of a world where people would be judged by the content of their character, not the color of their skin. “I have a dream,” he kept repeating. In his iPhone launch, Jobs described innovations that would revolutionize our lives. He quoted a famous Wayne Gretzky saying, “I skate to where the puck is going to be, not to where it’s been.” That is how Jobs lived his life. I just finished a book by Seth Godin titled, Tribes: We need you to lead us. Godin talked about two kinds of people: those who maintain the status quo, and heretics. Those who maintain the status quo are satisfied with how things are, or else they are complacent or too lazy to challenge what is. Heretics are those who imagine something different. They are visionaries, leaders, innovators. Think about some heretics you may know by name: Mother Theresa, Gandhi, Jesus, Desmond Tutu, Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther, Martin Luther King. Heretics have guts. In an interview series with National Public Radio this week, Jones said all that for years, all the phone conversations between himself and Dr. King were recorded by the FBI (the United States Federal Bureau...

003: Living a Balanced & Healthy Life Aug27

003: Living a Balanced & Healthy Life...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/GCOYL-003.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 20:10 — 18.5MB)In this episode, Dr. Deb visits with Liz Cochrane about personal adjustments Liz made to live a balanced and healthy life. Liz and her husband Steve lived in India and Nepal for 26 years, developing a Christian non-profit from just ten people to over 2,500 staff working on over 200 ministries and projects. They now live in the U.S. working with ACE Development to fight global poverty issues. Visit their website at http://www.acedevelopmentfund.org. One of the resources we mention is Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the two halves of life. You can order it by clicking on the...

Feed Your Soul

How do you feed your soul? What gives you life instead of sucking life out of you? Just like you need food and sleep to be healthy, so you need to feed your soul! I enjoy quite Sunday mornings, time with friends, audio books, time in nature, and of course, music. I especially like to play my, “soul food” play list on Sundays and other times when I need to block out the world, quiet my soul, and focus spiritually. It’s a collection of music that touches my soul and encourages me. I love to take my dogs for hikes in the mountains, (though that doesn’t happen enough). I enjoy a cold beverage or two with close friends. I read books that are deep and shake me out of my little boxes. I take time each morning to nurture a devotional life. I sit, drink coffee, read and pray. It’s an awesome way to begin the day. What gives you life? What feeds your soul? Sometimes we are so focused on meeting others’ expectations, living up to obligations, and caring for others, that we fail to feed and care for ourselves. It is only by being healthy and well fed that you can truly give yourself to others. Think about what gives you life. Then schedule some time to it this week. Don’t give in to the, “I don’t have time,” argument. You can’t afford not to.   Photo by Solenberg; retrieved from...

Myers-Briggs 2

So now you’ve taken the Myers-Briggs test. If not, click here to take a free online version (also known as the Jung Typology test).

002: Living With Purpose Aug20

002: Living With Purpose...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/GCOYL-002.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 11:27 — 10.5MB)In episode 002, Dr. Deb interviews John Henry about Living With Purpose. John is the director of student mobilization at University of the Nations. He introduces students to overseas volunteer projects. They both make a difference in peoples’ life and experience personal transformation. John invites you to explore a lifestyle of generosity to make a difference in the lives of people around you. It’s a reminder that you bring things to the world no one else does! Be yourself and give of yourself! This episode was recorded in Hawaii, so you’ll get to hear some of the ambience of the islands! For more information on John’s work,...

Myers-Briggs 1

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a personality test to help you learn about yourself and others. You can use the Myers-Briggs to help you understand: How you get energized How you gather and process information How you make decisions, and How you communicate. Generally, it help explains how you do life and how that is often different from others. There are several personality profiles out there. What makes the Myers-Briggs unique is that it is the most researched and written about. It has been tested extensively; there are many, many websites and books about it. The Myers-Briggs is based on physiological types theory described by Carl Jung. It has been used extensively in business, counseling and team building since the 1940s. The MBTI is owned by The Myers-Briggs Foundation and is generally administered by MBTI-certified consultants. However, there are some tests online you can take for free. I recommend the 72-question test provided by Human Metrics. Although the questions are “yes” and “no,” the results rate the degree of your preferences, unlike some other sites. I recommend you take the test. Even if you’ve taken the test before, try it again as your score can change. (In theory your score is not supposed to change. However, I have found that as people mature and find themselves in situations where they have to do less adapting to others, their true self emerges. My score has changed on two of the four dimensions.) If you are married or in a significant relationship, ask your partner to take it too. Learning about and discussing your preferences can be an eye opener into your relationship and help explain many of your thoughts and behaviors. NOTE: Personality test should never be used to pigeon hole a person, put...

Risk

What are you willing to risk? While this may be a legitimate question in a poker game, it is also an essential life question. We all know that risk is both a verb and a noun. We understand that risk involves taking action that is uncertain; it could result in positive or negative outcomes. We’d like to think that every risk situation is approached with a firm calculation of potential outcomes. But we know we’re not just logical beings; we are complexly emotional. We also know that we make decisions based on limited information. Teenagers engage in reckless behavior, from driving too fast to unprotected sex. That is because the prefrontal cortex—the part of the brain responsible for risk assessment and decision making— is not fully developed until age 25. But many adults exhibit the same types of irrational and irresponsible behavior as adolescents. Smoking, eating too much (or the wrong things), ignoring relationship red flags, and making unwise financial decisions, are just some of examples. I know someone who is too afraid to drive; yet she has made risky life choices that have resulted in chronic stress and financial strain. The risk-assessment part of her being seems to be broken. We tend to underestimate potential negative consequences for things we want. We just do them. In other areas, we fail to accurately assess what could happen if we don’t take care of the things we already have. A common example is not backing up your computer. With more and more of our lives stored on and dependent on technology, why doesn’t everyone back up? Cloud backup and external hard drives are super-easy and incredibly affordable. You can get a 500GB external drive for under $50 in the U.S., and a 1-2T drive for...

001: Getting Beyond The Zombie Life Aug13

001: Getting Beyond The Zombie Life...

http://media.blubrry.com/gcoyl/p/media.medeor.co/gcoyl/GCOYL-001.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 14:13 — 13.0MB)In this premier episode, we bring a conversation between Dr. Deb and lifecoach Jeannette Slater. We all get stuck and start living life on auto-pilot. In a sense, we start acting like zombie. This dialogue is a call to wake up from the zombie life, try new things, and breathe new life into your...

Shut Up!

Maintaining sanity in a noisy world is more and more challenging. Everybody wants a piece of us, from advertisers to kids to needy friends. It’s ok to have boundaries. In fact, healthy people have lots of healthy boundaries. We are the most over-stimulated people in history. We think we have to be available to everybody all the time. Enough! If you struggle with too much noise in your life, try giving yourself permission to say later or NO! (If you won’t give yourself permission, allow me!) It’s ok to turn off your cell phone and other devices. or wait till later to respond. People die in traffic because they think a text can’t wait. Make wise decisions with your time and resources. While it’s good to be generous with others, their needs do not necessarily set your priorities. Look for ways to quiet your mind. Maybe leaving the TV off (especially early morning and late at night) will give you much needed time alone with your thoughts. Take time each day to be still and think about your priorities. Try relaxing techniques like prayer, meditation or yoga. Take time for yourself. You only give life to others when there is life inside of you.   Photo by Russian photographer, Maria Beliakova, of Jet Media. Retrieved from http://www.freeimages.com/photo/1070268...