Overcoming Adversity

This is a video story about two things: Overcoming adversity and making a difference. Zach is the 11-year-old son of some friends. He suffers from several disorders including Aspergers Syndrome, dyslexia and ADHD. His service dog, Clyde, is his helper. So is Chris. Zach and his parents have had much to overcome. Life was very difficult for Zach; but as a family, they pressed forward till they found answers. Chris is the prison inmate who trained, Clyde the service dog. He turned his life around and is doing so for others. Watch this inspiring video. If these folks can overcome adversity, so can you!...

Roles

We all have to fit into various roles in our families, careers and life. Here is an article about adjusting and making roles fit you rather just making you fit roles. It is written by Shan Moore. Motherhood is accepted as one of life’s most fulfilling and enriching experiences. We are told over and over again that the day you meet the little life you created, your heart will be overwhelmed with a love so deep, it even exceeds what you feel for your significant other. There is some truth to this. HOWEVER, what we aren’t told is that the authentic, deep love you feel for your newborn will consist of two equal parts; 1) adoration and 2) being scared sh*tless. My first pregnancy was three years ago. I was 28 and couldn’t imagine feeling any less equipped. I remember weeks of random, senseless crying and nighttime bouts of loneliness and fear. “Is an 8-pound child really going to successfully plow through my pelvis?!” These were troubles that I was sure—a self-confident, happily married woman—should NOT be facing. How do other women go through with this and not completely fall apart inside? The formula, I thought, was after you’ve had your share of dancing on the bar for tequila shots, been married for 5 years, and traveled the world, you’d be ready. Right? I did my best at blaming all my insecurities and withdrawn behavior on hormones. But how could this experience be so far off from the tender bliss of motherhood I’d heard all about? The problem was, I’d allowed my peers, society, and silly ideals to determine my expectations for this life-changing event. Life can be like that. People expect us to behave in certain ways. And sometimes we don’t fit the...

Choices

Not all choices are equal. There are choices and there are CHOICES! This article concerns the choices behind the choices, or what the business world calls strategic decisions and operational decisions. Many people fail or fall victim to circumstances because they end up making a strategic decision when an operational decision is called for. Teenage pregnancy is a prime example. When we fail to make a good strategic decision, we make bad operational decisions. For example: I don’t feel like going to the gym. That is an operational decision for the moment. However, if I have made a strategic decision to be in good physical shape and/or be at a healthy weight, the current decision is hopefully an exceptional operational decision, not a permanent one. So I will go to the gym tomorrow. The problem is that we often over-rely on operational decisions—how I feel at the moment—to ultimately make our strategic decisions. Then life pushes us around instead of us pushing life. If I make the decision to come home and drink beer and eat chips instead of going to the gym—day after day—I have ultimately made a strategic decision to be a beer-drinking, chip-eating (and likely overweight TV-watcher) instead of a disciplined healthy person. I just listened to an important book, The Power Of Habit: Why We Do What We Do In Life And Business. The book gets into how and why we make choices. Some things we do by remote (habit), like shifting a manual car, turning right when we enter a grocery store, or eating that cookie at 3 every afternoon. We CAN actually form new habits. I cchose (and I choose) to be healthy, so I can’t succumb to the routine mentioned above everyday. By exercising my will power...

Change

It’s a word that excites some of us, and scares some of us. Whether you like it or not, change happens; it’s an inevitable part of life. As we begin a new year, many are reconsidering how to make some changes. Stores are full of vitamins and exercise equipment, playing on the fact that a lot of people know they need to take better care of themselves. Shops are also full of plastic bins to help us get organized, books to help us grow, and clothes to help us look better. But we all know that true change happens from the inside out. Even though we get tied up with the mundane and stressful details of life, like running the kids around, taking care of the home, working, etc., there is something deep down that wants to make a difference. How does change happen? I will be writing soon about changing our personal habits. In an attempt to get some of the focus off of ourselves—which is always a good thing—I want to share the lyrics for one of the most profound pop songs I’ve ever heard. Man in the Mirror (written by Glen Ballard and Seidah Garrett) was a huge hit by Michael Jackson. How do we change the world? It starts by changing ourselves. “I’m Gonna Make A Change, For Once In My Life It’s Gonna Feel Real Good, Gonna Make A Difference Gonna Make It Right . . .   “As I, Turn Up The Collar On My Favorite Winter Coat This Wind Is Blowin’ My Mind I See The Kids In The Street, With Not Enough To Eat Who Am I, To Be Blind? Pretending Not To See Their Needs A Summer’s Disregard, A Broken Bottle Top And A One Man’s...