Just Get Along

“Can’t we all get along?” is a famous quote by Rodney King, a black man whose brutal beating by Los Angeles police during racial riots in 1992 was captured on video and spread around the world. Almost 2000 years earlier, the Apostle Paul wrote the same message to Christ-followers in the Greek...

Living With Purpose

“Finding a direction for life, and setting overarching goals for what you want to achieve can help you actually live longer,” says psychology researcher, Patrick Hill of Carleton University. Hill and his colleague Nicholas Turiano recently published “Purpose in Life as a Predictor of...

When A Bargain Isn’t A Bargain Nov25

When A Bargain Isn’t A Bargain

I love bargains. In fact, I have such a reputation among my friends, they sometimes ask me to help them shop; I truly am “Dealtime Deb.” I love the hunt of finding just what I need at the best price. I’ve written previously about practical ways to save money. It just makes sense to shop around to make your limited resources go further. However there are times, many times, when a bargain is not a bargain. I have stuff in my house I never use. I made the mistake of falling for a deal when I really didn’t need it or could not afford it. How do you know when a deal is a deal? Here are some reasons our justifications may not be justifiable at...

Finding Fault

“…the disciples were finding fault with each other because they had forgotten to bring bread.”* Jesus’ followers were crossing a large lake when they realized they had no lunch. So they started pointing fingers to assign blame. No matter they had just witnessed Jesus multiply a few fish and...

Letting Go

One of the ironies in getting control of your life is the need to let go of some things. Getting control of your life is not about becoming a control freak. People who have the need to order their world so much they must control others, are hard to be around. They fret or get angry when they...

Giving To Others

Comedian Michael Jr. likes to make people laugh. But one day he realized his big break, and it wasn’t what you would think. Giving to others happens in many ways. Watch this short video to see how Michael does...

Pleasantville

It seemed everything was perfect. Kids were happy, fathers got a fully cooked dinner after a long day at work, the streets were clean, and there was no crime anywhere to be found. It was the idealized American 1950s. It’s all the residents of the small town knew. But life turned messy when...

I Quit! Nov12

I Quit!

“Quitters never win and winners never quit.” So said American football legend Vince Lombardi in what has become conventional wisdom. But sometimes, conventional wisdom isn’t very wise. In his little book, the dip, Seth Godin claims that winners quit all the time. They just quit the right...

Magic Eraser

Mr. Clean has a whole line of “Magic Erasers” that promise to remove dirt, scuffs, soap scum and other nastiness of life. But what if there was a product to erase a particularly difficult or painful time in your life? Would you use it? Would you use a magic eraser to make it as though the...

Wonder

The sea is a completely different world than we experience everyday. Perhaps that’s why so many people love to escape by diving or snorkeling. Check out this amazing underwater video; it’s probably unlike anything you’ve seen before. Relax. Get your eyes off yourself....

Perception Checking

We think we see the world as it is. But we actually see it through our limited perceptions and stories we construct to explain it. We develop narratives about who we are, who other people are, and what events and communication mean. We’re on a constant quest to explain things to ourselves....

Valuing Relationship...

Twenty friends had gathered to celebrate my birthday. What was lovely is that the evening was not all about me, it was about friendships. Some were new friends, some relationships went back more than 30 years. It was good because it was fundamentally human–to love and be loved, and to...

How Successful People Think Oct13

How Successful Peopl...

I saw a great movie. Well it wasn’t a great MOVIE, but it was a GREAT STORY about a GREAT MAN. The film was Gifted Hands: The Ben Carson Story. Dr. Ben Carson is one of the most celebrated neurosurgeons in the world. He pioneered new surgeries, forcing himself to consider techniques that had...

What Is A Podcast?

“Podcast” refers to audio or video content that is available through the Internet. There are thousands of podcasts (more than 115,000 in English alone) that offer content as diverse as comedy, news, tech talk, self-help, religion, trivia, hobbies, money, pop culture, and education. The name...

Audio Books

We lead very busy lives. Packing in all we want to accomplish can be challenging. In addition, we all learn in different ways: some by seeing, some by touching/doing), and some by hearing. It’s important to know your learning style as it can affect when and how you learn best. This is the...

Are You An Artist?

In his book Linchpin, Seth Godin shares a concept I think has profound truth. An artist is someone who gives life to another. Wow–someone who gives life to another! This thought was foremost in my mind when I saw a little video shared on Facebook. It shows a Chinese man making cotton...

Are You a Busyologis...

We are chronically busy. We are often tired. I choose to be active and tend to over-extend myself. But as I get older, I also give myself permission to take breaks from busyness to rest, restore my soul, and be with friends. That is exactly what I’m going to do next week when my college...

3 Little Words

Grant James is a well-known actor and friend of mine from Dallas. In fact’ he’s in Dumb and Dumber To with Jim Carrey that will be released in November. Jim recently had a health scare with a bleeding ulcer than landed him in the hospital needed 4 pints of blood. This is a...

Christian Stereotype...

“I hate when people assume certain things about me without getting to know who I am. You probably hate that too!” So said 20-something youth pastor and writer, Brett Shoemaker, in a recent online post. Brett enjoys challenging the status quo, being controversial and trying to think outside of...

The Podcast Is Here!

The Get Control Of Your Life Podcast is here! It includes conversations between Dr. Deb and all sorts of fascinating people who have worked hard to get control of their lives. They bring expertise in topics as diverse as volunteerism, exercise, life coaching, developing a vibrant spiritual...

Do You Have A Dream?

August 28th marks the 51st anniversary of the landmark civil rights march on Washington, where Martin Luther King delivered his most remembered speech, “I have a dream.” I’ve become fairly familiar with the famous speech in recent years, playing it for my community college students as a brilliant and well-delivered example of a speech (and to inspire them to something bigger than themselves). If you haven’t seen it in awhile, I encourage you to watch it online: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=smEqnnklfYs On that sunny 1963 day, thousands of Americans converged on Washington D.C. to march for civil rights—equal opportunities for all...

Feed Your Soul

How do you feed your soul? What gives you life instead of sucking life out of you? Just like you need food and sleep to be healthy, so you need to feed your soul! I enjoy quite Sunday mornings, time with friends, audio books, time in nature, and of course, music. I especially like to play my,...

Myers-Briggs 2

So now you’ve taken the Myers-Briggs test. If not, click here to take a free online version (also known as the Jung Typology...

Myers-Briggs 1

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a personality test to help you learn about yourself and others. You can use the Myers-Briggs to help you understand: How you get energized How you gather and process information How you make decisions, and How you communicate. Generally, it help...

Risk

What are you willing to risk? While this may be a legitimate question in a poker game, it is also an essential life question. We all know that risk is both a verb and a noun. We understand that risk involves taking action that is uncertain; it could result in positive or negative outcomes....

Shut Up!

Maintaining sanity in a noisy world is more and more challenging. Everybody wants a piece of us, from advertisers to kids to needy friends. It’s ok to have boundaries. In fact, healthy people have lots of healthy boundaries. We are the most over-stimulated people in history. We think we have...

You Need A Budget Jul29

You Need A Budget

I am on a quest to be financially healthy. And for me to be successful in any area of my life, I need a SYSTEM that helps me accomplish my goals. It must be easy to use and convenient. At the beginning of 2012, I began looking for a program to keep track of my money, and was so pleased when I...

Seek and Serve

I recently had a brush with my own mortality. I wasn’t aware of it, but I was told the surgery was just in time. Since then, I have been flooded with prayers and well wishes from literally hundreds of friends and acquaintances. It’s been overwhelming. And I’m grateful.

You Can Do It!

I did it! My fancy automatic espresso machine was jacked; it seemed to have a problem, and I couldn’t figure out if it was mechanical or electrical. Turns out, it was neither. It was coffee; stuck coffee. Yup, the thing they don’t tell you (up front) when you get one of these complicated...

rezəˈlo͞oSHəns #1...

The dictionary defines a resolution as a firm decision to do or not to do something. It’s a word that is mostly used this time of year. It’s an abused word.

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