Audio Books

We lead very busy lives. Packing in all we want to accomplish can be challenging. In addition, we all learn in different ways: some by seeing, some by touching/doing), and some by hearing. It’s important to know your learning style as it can affect when and how you learn best. This is the...

Are You An Artist?

In his book Linchpin, Seth Godin shares a concept I think has profound truth. An artist is someone who gives life to another. Wow–someone who gives life to another! This thought was foremost in my mind when I saw a little video shared on Facebook. It shows a Chinese man making cotton...

Are You a Busyologis...

We are chronically busy. We are often tired. I choose to be active and tend to over-extend myself. But as I get older, I also give myself permission to take breaks from busyness to rest, restore my soul, and be with friends. That is exactly what I’m going to do next week when my college...

3 Little Words

Grant James is a well-known actor and friend of mine from Dallas. In fact’ he’s in Dumb and Dumber To with Jim Carrey that will be released in November. Jim recently had a health scare with a bleeding ulcer than landed him in the hospital needed 4 pints of blood. This is a...

Christian Stereotype...

“I hate when people assume certain things about me without getting to know who I am. You probably hate that too!” So said 20-something youth pastor and writer, Brett Shoemaker, in a recent online post. Brett enjoys challenging the status quo, being controversial and trying to think outside of...

The Podcast Is Here!

The Get Control Of Your Life Podcast is here! It includes conversations between Dr. Deb and all sorts of fascinating people who have worked hard to get control of their lives. They bring expertise in topics as diverse as volunteerism, exercise, life coaching, developing a vibrant spiritual...

Do You Have A Dream?

August 28th marks the 51st anniversary of the landmark civil rights march on Washington, where Martin Luther King delivered his most remembered speech, “I have a dream.” I’ve become fairly familiar with the famous speech in recent years, playing it for my community college students as a brilliant and well-delivered example of a speech (and to inspire them to something bigger than themselves). If you haven’t seen it in awhile, I encourage you to watch it online: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=smEqnnklfYs On that sunny 1963 day, thousands of Americans converged on Washington D.C. to march for civil rights—equal opportunities for all...

Feed Your Soul

How do you feed your soul? What gives you life instead of sucking life out of you? Just like you need food and sleep to be healthy, so you need to feed your soul! I enjoy quite Sunday mornings, time with friends, audio books, time in nature, and of course, music. I especially like to play my,...

Myers-Briggs 2

So now you’ve taken the Myers-Briggs test. If not, click here to take a free online version (also known as the Jung Typology...

Myers-Briggs 1

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a personality test to help you learn about yourself and others. You can use the Myers-Briggs to help you understand: How you get energized How you gather and process information How you make decisions, and How you communicate. Generally, it help...

When A Bargain Isn’t A Bargain Aug15

When A Bargain Isn’t A Bargain

I love bargains. In fact, I have such a reputation among my friends, they sometimes ask me to help them shop; I truly am “Dealtime Deb.” I love the hunt of finding just what I need at the best price. I’ve written previously about practical ways to save money. It just makes sense to shop around to make your limited resources go further. However there are times, many times, when a bargain is not a bargain. I have stuff in my house I never use. I made the mistake of falling for a deal when I really didn’t need it or could not afford it. How do you know when a deal is a deal? Here are some reasons our justifications may not be justifiable at...

Risk

What are you willing to risk? While this may be a legitimate question in a poker game, it is also an essential life question. We all know that risk is both a verb and a noun. We understand that risk involves taking action that is uncertain; it could result in positive or negative outcomes....

Shut Up!

Maintaining sanity in a noisy world is more and more challenging. Everybody wants a piece of us, from advertisers to kids to needy friends. It’s ok to have boundaries. In fact, healthy people have lots of healthy boundaries. We are the most over-stimulated people in history. We think we have...

Living With Purpose

“Finding a direction for life, and setting overarching goals for what you want to achieve can help you actually live longer,” says psychology researcher, Patrick Hill of Carleton University. Hill and his colleague Nicholas Turiano recently published “Purpose in Life as a Predictor of...

You Need A Budget Jul29

You Need A Budget

I am on a quest to be financially healthy. And for me to be successful in any area of my life, I need a SYSTEM that helps me accomplish my goals. It must be easy to use and convenient. At the beginning of 2012, I began looking for a program to keep track of my money, and was so pleased when I...

Letting Go

One of the ironies in getting control of your life is the need to let go of some things. Getting control of your life is not about becoming a control freak. People who have the need to order their world so much they must control others, are hard to be around. They fret or get angry when they...

Seek and Serve

I recently had a brush with my own mortality. I wasn’t aware of it, but I was told the surgery was just in time. Since then, I have been flooded with prayers and well wishes from literally hundreds of friends and acquaintances. It’s been overwhelming. And I’m grateful.

Finding Fault

“…the disciples were finding fault with each other because they had forgotten to bring bread.”* Jesus’ followers were crossing a large lake when they realized they had no lunch. So they started pointing fingers to assign blame. No matter they had just witnessed Jesus multiply a few fish and...

You Can Do It!

I did it! My fancy automatic espresso machine was jacked; it seemed to have a problem, and I couldn’t figure out if it was mechanical or electrical. Turns out, it was neither. It was coffee; stuck coffee. Yup, the thing they don’t tell you (up front) when you get one of these complicated...

rezəˈlo͞oSHəns #1...

The dictionary defines a resolution as a firm decision to do or not to do something. It’s a word that is mostly used this time of year. It’s an abused word.

resolutions #2

In my last article I opined that setting SMART goals is much more systematic and effective than making resolutions.

Never Enough

We’re never satisfied. Enough is never enough. Life seems to be a constant chase for filling what can never be filled. For some it’s food. For others it’s shopping, sex, drinking, being with people, working, or collecting. We never quite reach what we’re striving for. Seriously, how many pink...

Less Than You Are

It’s common for many to grow up with phrases repeated over and over to them: “Who do you think you are?” “I don’t want you to get a big head” and “You don’t know very much do you?” These get stuck in our heads and affect what we think of ourselves and how we do life. Unfortunately, they are...

Real Food

The irony was overwhelming. I walked into a popular fast food restaurant to use the facilities while traveling. It was a small town in Kansas surrounded by lush, fertile farmland. I immediately noticed that almost every person in the place was overweight. The crowd was not dining on fresh...

Just Get Along

“Can’t we all get along?” is a famous quote by Rodney King, a black man whose brutal beating by Los Angeles police during racial riots in 1992 was captured on video and spread around the world. Almost 2000 years earlier, the Apostle Paul wrote the same message to Christ-followers in the Greek...

There is no map

Does the thought of finding your own way in life excite you or freak you out? Some people are very comfortable with rules. They would prefer someone to just tell them what to do. Are you like that? Do you take comfort in just doing what’s expected of you? Do you long for a clear path that has...

Delayed Gratificatio...

I would really like to have an iPad. In fact, I’ve thought about this quite a lot in recent weeks and spent a fair amount of time researching the models and scouring the Internet for the best prices. But do I really need one? And is it a priority? Of course I could use one, and my lizard...

Germs

We need to have a healthy view of germs. There are good bacteria that are essential for life. They make is possible to grow food, break down that food in our bellies, build our immune systems, and compost plants in the life cycle. However, there are bad bacteria and viruses that make us sick....

How Do You Take Your Scriptures?

Varied interpretations of the Jewish, Muslim and Christian scriptures have been the center of controversy for centuries. Sunni and Shiite Muslims view the Qur’an very differently and defend their positions to the death (the cause of much us-vs- them hatred). In Jesus’ day, Pharisees and Sadducees rarely saw eye to eye. The sheer number of Christian denominations shows how people interpret passages differently. So how do you take YOUR scriptures? As a communication teacher, I know everyone interprets every situation through their own lens of personality, experience, culture and other variables. As a Christ follower, I understand people view...

Be Kind

“What I regret most in my life are failures of kindness.” So said writer George Saunders in a commencement speech at Syracuse University in May 2013. Saunders told the story of a new kid in his 7th grade class who was ignored and occasionally teased for her quirkiness. All these years later,...